Michael M. Christian, Ph.D., LPC-MHSP, NCC, CSAT

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The Secret Seductress: Breaking the Destructive Cycle of Pornography

Pornography can be exhilarating in the moment like a drug high. For many men, porn is their drug of choice, and they find the arousal effective, at least temporarily, in getting the blood pumping, the pulse racing, and the adrenaline flowing. But when the drug effect wears off, arousal is replaced by shame, and feelings of despair and emptiness take over. The drug doesn't just wear off, it retaliates!

We're waging war on sexual addiction and sexual immortality.and we're losing! Porn is not a respecter of persons. It is as common in the Christian community as in the culture. So many get sucked in and ensnared because our typical approaches only act as triage, stopping the initial bleeding. Healing from sexual addictions is not as simple as just pulling a plug and everything is fixed. Sex addictions are a symptom of deeper emotional and spiritual issues. If the deeper issues are not addressed, sooner or later the plug will just be reconnected. We must delve into the wounds of the heart, discover our true desires, and then learn alternative, healthy ways to find the love and nurture we need.

The Secret Seductress is an incredible resource for men's groups, soul care groups, individual Bible study, individual therapy sessions, and therapeutic groups. Order your copy today or a copy for each of your group members by clicking on the Products link.

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Sexual Addiction:

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